Brad from Charlotte
This story may be a short one, and it actually may sound very familiar as it is one of the stories that I have heard over and over again when discussing relationships. It is not that this specific event described happens over and over. It is that at a moment in the relationship there is a whoa-moment. Our hero in this story, Bard, had his girlfriend for ten months at the moment that this story begins. They were great together, he made her happy when she was sad, they could function and actually have fun together at bars and at parties. (Lesson: This is important, you may have grown accustom to the fact that bars and parties are fun when single and with your boys. But bars and parties are just as much fun in a relationship. But remember that single girls/guys find committed girls/guys attractive. Just talk about it with her before you go out, not that it is going to be an issue but you want to be on the same page and ready to have fun.)
Brad’s friends were her friends and vice versa, they would have nights where she would invite her friends over and he would not feel out-of-place. Eventually they got all of their friends to find a couple nights a month to all meet up at their apartment. Brad would always go out of his way to make sure that his girlfriend was having a good time and he took the responsibility of coming up with themes for their parties and then take his girlfriend out shopping and let her pick up the items she wanted, the drinks, the costumes, all her decision and all for her. And he would always find a moment in the night to steal her away from the party and sneak her to the top of their apartment building, or into a closet, or out in the hallway and just kiss her and enjoy being together.
Our hero was the party leader, he would demand and make sure that everyone was enjoying their night as if it was their first and last party. Brad would switch from being kind and gentle with one of the girls at the party and then would push a couple of the guys around to loosen them up. And on nights that there were no parties, our hero would still be in party-leader mode. Brad would go from being nice and gentle with his girl and then loosen her up and getting her to be completely open and honest about her real emotions and sex. (Lesson: I cannot tell you enough, having an honest relationship pays off.)
One party, Brad enticed a couples game of ‘Truth or Dare’ and Brad and his girlfriend knew that this game would always but a couple in an awkward position. But Brad would always bring the mood back and never let the awkward situation take control. He would get everyone to laugh it off and move on. So Brad’s friend dared a girl, rumored to have no gag-reflex, to deep-throat a banana. All the guys in the room smiled, even our hero, because they all knew the rumor and they all had imaginations… and put those two together and this moment was highly anticipated. The girls, well of course they moaned and said how gross and stupid guys were. Some of them laughed because they knew the rumor, but most rolled their eyes. But Brad silenced everyone and told the girl that she had to, it was a dare and if she did not want to take the dare she had to chug two beers.
Brad’s girlfriend was slightly bothered that he was pushing this on the girl. But the girl said that she would and the crowd fell silent while they watched, except for Brad. Our hero applauded and went to give his friend a high-five when he realized that no one else was as excited. (Lesson: Be excited on the inside, girls may feel intimidated or have some kind of self-esteem issue when another girl is in the room that can make her boyfriend get that excited. So quiet down, breathe, and pay attention to how your girl reacts.)
The game continued and our hero realized that the mood was getting awkward so he switched the game to ‘Shot Golf’. (Lesson: You need a putter, golf balls, and red-plastic cup. Split into teams of 2-4 per team, and each person gets a chance to hit the ball into the cup and have the ball stay in the cup. The losing team has to do a shot of beer or liquor, you pick.) Our hero was trying to find his usual partner for ‘Shot Golf’ but she was missing. He walked into his bedroom, and there she was packing her stuff. She asked him if he liked a girl that deep throats and, in a moment of pure-honesty, our hero told her who doesn’t. Well our hero knew that girls did not want to hear that kind of response, but he did not realize that she was seriously upset about the issue. And she left Brad having to play ‘Shot Golf’ by himself.
(Lesson: This is something you will face, a.k.a. the whoa-moment. It may be from a girl on a television show, a movie, a poster, or just a girl walking by on the street. Just do not react the way you would as if you are with your guy friends, work on reacting in a less obvious way. Curl your toes, crack your knuckles, bite your tongue. But know this, she reacts to stimuli too. Girls just know how to hide it better.)
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